Rule #1 Don't Stay at Home, You Don't Belong There-家 (jiā)

I love my husband and my household, but I'm not a home-body. If I stay at home for too long, I panic. I fantasize that I'm a modern housewife, who is trapped at home with my husband's dirty laundry and a boatload of dishes to do. This  panic takes on many forms.

I'll get mad at Char for asking me to wash the towels, I'll call Sam insensitive or I just won't get out of bed. The worst is when I start yelling and crying. I'll get upset for no reason and then storm out. In general, I start acting out or not moving.

From years of experience, I know that I need an active life outside the household to be happy. I don't value cleaning and having experiences in the outside world means everything to me. So in the long run, I'd rather be homeless than a housewife.

It's important that I don't panic about the prospect of being a house wife. I don't want to be a house wife, so I won't. I'm not good at making a living, but I'll put myself somewhere because that's what I do.

 家 (jiā) -The Chinese character shows a pig under a roof.
豕       宀
Shǐ    Miān
Pig    Roof
(Source: http://mandarin.about.com/od/characters/a/profile-jia.htm)